It is easy to think that being totally available to struggling individuals is what they need. 

There is a difference between helping someone who is disabled, incapable or otherwise infirm versus helping someone who is resisting growing up and taking care of what every adult has to be responsible for: herself or himself. 


Audio Lesson 1: Learn What's Yours to Own

We are responsible TO each other, not FOR each other. Learn why you shouldn't rescue or enable another's immature behavior and why you should let someone suffer their own consequences. 

Audio Lesson 2: Realize Cause and Effect

Actions have consequences. If someone in your life is spending too much money, abusing drugs or refusing to get help, are you setting boundaries against it? Or are excuses being made for them?

Audio Lesson 3: Recognize True Change in Someone

When someone messes up, and they say they’re going to change, you'll learn how far an apology will go and acquire the wisdom to discern when it's ok to invest more into the future of the relationship or let it go. 

How Codependency Starts

Psychologist and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Henry Cloud discusses the relationship between addicts and enablers.



Why am I always attracted to someone who wants to be rescued?

One reason for this attraction is that there is a match. The addict does not take responsibility for his life, and the codependent feels responsible to take care of people who are not taking responsibility for themselves. You'll learn more about this in the first lesson.

How do I know if someone's actually in need or wants to be rescued?

There's nothing wrong with helping someone. But the lines must always be clear as to whether you are helping them to do what they should be doing, or if you are doing for them what they should be doing for themselves. You'll learn more about this in the second lesson. 

Is it possible for an addict to change? How do I know if the change is real?

Just because someone apologizes or says that they're sorry, it does not mean they have changed as a person. It may mean they want to be different, but you must be able to see tangible fruit to know the change is real. You'll learn more about this in the third lesson. 

If you’re codependent, you may ask yourself why you keep running into the same patterns...

... and if you’ll ever see an end to the cycle you find yourself in. When we have needs in our life that aren’t being met, we’ll find ways to resolve the pain, even if it’s bad for us.



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