“I'm tired of these toxic patterns.”

When researchers began studying addictions, they realized that most of the time addicts do not live in a vacuum. Instead, they live in a system of relationships. In an attempt to help, an enabler rescues the addict from the discomfort that would drive the person to face and solve the problem. When the enabler becomes aware of this and allows the addict to feel pain, healing can begin. When we confront addiction within a relationship, it means that we care about a resolution that saves the relationship and helps the other person. You’re also learning to get your needs met while learning what it means to be responsible to someone rather than for someone.