One of the hardest things about ending codependency is that it tugs at your heart. You develop codependent habits because you care, and you don’t want to hurt anyone. You want to see an addict get better or you want to see your child succeed. When we see our loved ones suffering, it’s easy to want to come to their rescue. But the reality is, you can’t get sober for someone, and you cannot make your child learn lessons that are essential to growing up. We are to be responsible to someone by providing them resources to get help, but we are not responsible for someone in a sense that it’s not our place to do the work for someone else. Let’s talk about that here, and scroll down for more.