Attachment Styles that Lead to Failure in Relationships

Every relationship needs to have two essential components that work together, or it’s destined for failure.

A relationship needs to have the glue that keeps it together, and that there’s an attachment that’s not easily broken. At the same time, there has to be another component within that attachment — separateness.

Now, what do I mean by separateness? How can you be “separate” from someone when there has to be togetherness? Well, what I mean is, you have to have autonomy within that relationship.

So, we have to have togetherness, and we have to have separateness.

Here’s the deal … When we get into relationships, and one person interprets any separateness as a threat, but it’s really not, it creates a problem. That’s where control issues come from.