What to do When You Have a Boundary-Resistant Spouse May 06, 2021

A boundary-resistant person refuses to acknowledge any wrongdoing and will not accept correction or feedback. The basic attitude of someone who resists boundaries is this: "I should be able to do whatever I want to do in life." Ultimate freedom is the highest value for such a person. But...

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You are Not Responsible for Your Significant Other Apr 17, 2021

When you marry someone, you take on the burden of loving your spouse deeply and caring for him or her as for no other. You care about how you affect your spouse; you care about your spouse’s welfare and feelings. If one spouse feels no sense of responsibility to the other, this spouse is,...

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Saying No is Enough — You Don’t Have to Justify It Apr 17, 2021

Psychologists spend an enormous amount of energy building psychological tests, assessments, and the like, and then administering them to people to help them understand themselves. This practice is very helpful in many settings, from work, to education, to couples and individuals. Insight into...

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How to Increase Intimacy in Your Relationship Apr 14, 2021

When it comes to your relationship, acceptance has to do with being able to relate lovingly and without judgment to everything about your partner. It is embracing the reality of his or her strengths and weaknesses, gifts, and imperfections. It does not mean that you approve of everything about...

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How to Address Someone Who Has Violated Your Boundaries Apr 08, 2021

Amanda had issues with her in-laws and wasn't sure how to address the boundary violations that had occurred since she and her husband had gotten married.

"They like to tell us how things should be," she said. "I think his mom comes from a good place sometimes, but she comes across as overly...

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Why You Don't Get Married to Become a Whole Person Apr 07, 2021

I listened as Faith told me about her fiancé, Daniel. She was excited about their relationship and their upcoming marriage. I was excited as well until she said something that revealed an attitude people have about relationships: she expected her fiancé to be her other half.

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Why Inviting the Truth is the Best Thing You Can Do for Your Relationship Apr 02, 2021

One of the most valuable things you can do with your safe people, ranking up there with asking for help, needing, and melting resistance, is simply to invite the truth about yourself. We have so many blind spots and areas where we aren’t aware of our self-destructiveness. 

There are...

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Your Anger is Valid. Don't Deny It. Mar 24, 2021

Many people conceal their negative feelings of anger, sadness, and fear. These people are unable to cope with good and bad because they have never processed these negative feelings, and they suffer from many problems, such as fear of relationships, depressions, and anxiety as a result. Negative...

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7 Ways You’re Being Disrespected in a Dating Relationship Mar 23, 2021

Disrespect flourishes when someone values their own desires above their date's. They may not be actively trying to hurt the other. Instead, the other person's feelings, freedom, or needs get trampled or ignored because of how intent their date is on having their own way. Disrespect tends to be...

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Opposites Attract, But Should They Date? Mar 22, 2021

We should use and appreciate the abilities of those who have what we don't. However, the danger occurs when we use opposing styles or abilities as a basis for relationships. At the outset of the relationship, this may seem like a good thing. You are complementing each other. You each provide what...

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The Psychology Behind Overreacting: What It Really Means Mar 19, 2021

Tell me if you’ve known of this to happen:

You’re in a relationship, and one of you gets a little peeved about some ordinary matter and says something like, "It really bugs me that you don't listen to me.” The other partner reacts by exploding in rage, hurt, or both, in a manner...

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Why Your Partner Needs to Be Validated to Resolve Conflict Mar 18, 2021

Validation is necessary for couples to navigate successfully through conflict because we all need to be heard and understood. We really don't move forward to resolve conflicts when we do not feel we have been understood.

Think about the last fight you had with your partner. When you were trying...

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