Invalidation is a Trust Killer Sep 30, 2022

Connection and trust happen when one heart meets another. Invalidation wipes out the other heart and closes it off. Think of the contexts of life that change when a person has the ability to connect with someone else. In business, deals are won and sales are made. In personal relationships,...

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5 Ways to Follow Your Calling Sep 28, 2022

Researchers write that, when it comes to how people look at their work, there are three kinds of people:

  1. Those who see their work as a “job,” with its main purpose being to provide a living
  2. Those who see their work as a “career,” with the main purpose of advancement...
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6 Ways to Improve Your Thinking Sep 26, 2022

Every single day, happy people are thinking thoughts that help them to be happy, and unhappy people do the opposite. I’ll add a disclaimer here that I am, once again, not speaking about people with clinical reasons for their depression. I am speaking to people whose unhappiness is caused by...

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Don’t Be Lazy About Your Happiness Sep 23, 2022

It probably sounds pretty obvious to say it, but many unhappy people desire to be happy. They want it, but they don’t always do the things that will make it happen.The potential for happiness walks by each and every day, and they don’t notice it, or they don’t take the steps to...

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Discover Your Desires And Bring Them to Life Sep 21, 2022

Your heart is an organ designed to have life flowing through it. Your mind is like that as well, as is your soul. They are not meant to be stagnant, with things buried in them, stuck there and not moving into the light of the outside world.

But to get to the outside visible world, those desires...

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How to Destroy All of Your Relationships Sep 19, 2022

I have a question for you. In your opinion, what is the formula for destroying relationships?
If you are like most people, you can probably think of a few ways to make them worse:
Lie
Cheat
Don’t pay attention
Criticize
Those are all good suggestions, and they would probably be pretty effective,...

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Why People Hide Their Feelings Sep 16, 2022

Something happens to the openness and intimacy of a relationship’s early seasons. The two people slowly stop communicating what they really think and feel, and they slowly get further and further away from each other emotionally. Their hearts either settle into a partial intimacy or a...

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Stop Searching For Your Other Half Sep 14, 2022

Here is a misconception that many people seem to hold. It stems from trying to solve an age-old math problem the wrong way. It looks like this:

½ person + ½ person = 1 whole person

Here is this wrong point of view stated another way: “I am incomplete as a person, and you are...

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There Are No Perfect 10s Sep 12, 2022

One of the biggest relationship killers around is comparing the person you love to a fantasy. The truth is, a real person can never match up to the fantasy. Even if the fantasized person is a real person, the fantasy of being with that person is far from what actually being with them would really...

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Add Some Pain to Consequences to Protect Your Boundaries Sep 09, 2022

Our best relationships still cannot rescue us. Instead, they hold us responsible for our performance. There are standards and there are consequences. Few things are worse for people than rewarding or overlooking poor performance and bad behavior. It clearly tells the underachiever, “What...

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How to Develop the Strength to Gain Control of Your Life Sep 07, 2022

I would like for you to feel solidly in control of your life. You cannot control other people, but you can get in control of yourself. You have to be able to make the choices you need in order to make your life work, belong to you, and integrate around the things important to you. That may...

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Rules Are the Cure for Misery Sep 05, 2022

Sometimes rules get a bad rap. Please don’t get defensive about the idea of having rules in your life. I would like you to understand something. If you knew me well, you would know that I am not a very “rulesy” person. I know those kinds of people are usually not the ones I like...

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