Is Dating Just About Getting Married? Feb 09, 2021

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari, like they're trying to land the trophy. There are a number of things wrong with that. Number one, they're looking for "the one." When they get in that mindset, it keeps them from meeting lots of different people that may have attributes or...

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How to Support a Loved One With Depression Feb 09, 2021

If you’ve ever seen a friend or a loved one suffer from depression, you experience your own hurt as you see them struggle. You come from a genuine place when you think about just wanting them to get back to normal, that good place where they feel like themselves. The person who is in front...

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Someone Else's Feelings Aren't Yours to Own Dec 29, 2020

Our feelings, whether good or bad, are our property. They fall within our boundaries. Our feelings are our responsibility; others’ feelings are their responsibility. If other people feel sad, it is their sadness. This does not mean that they do not need someone else to be with them in their...

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No One Can Make You Feel Guilty — Guilt Trippers are Manipulators Dec 29, 2020

When is the last time someone made you feel guilty even though you know you shouldn't have felt that way?

Guilt is a difficult emotion. It's not actually a feeling the way that sadness, anger or fear are. It's our conscience punishing us by saying "You are bad."

Guilt comes mainly from how we...

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How to Guard Yourself Against Unsafe Family Members Dec 29, 2020

When I was still doing my old radio show, a woman called into our program and said that she was going to visit her family for Christmas. She was depressed because she knew her grandfather would make things miserable, just as he always did. She dreaded hearing his criticism of her and her...

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How to Regain Positive Momentum after a Difficult Year Dec 29, 2020

About 10 years ago, I was addressing an organization in the aftermath of a financial meltdown. We discussed why so many people were feeling down, defeated, and unable to perform at the levels they were used to. (It is amazing how just knowing that there is a reason for why you feel the way you do...

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How to Help Someone Without Burning Yourself Out Dec 29, 2020

Amy called Tina late one night needing a friend.

“He’s gone,” Amy said between sobs. “Dad passed an hour ago.”

Tina was heartbroken for her friend. Though offering condolences and prayers seemed appropriate, Tina wanted to do more for Amy. She couldn’t take...

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Wise, Foolish or Evil: How to Know Who You're Dealing With Dec 29, 2020

If you believe that you’re a responsible and loving person, it’s easy to assume that other people think like you. You think that they care about other people and how their actions affect those people. Since you have a concern about how what you do affects others, then it makes sense...

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How to Set Boundaries Within a Dysfunctional Family Dec 28, 2020

Look at your own life situation and see where boundary problems exist with your parents and siblings. The basic question is this: Where have you lost control of your property? Identify those areas and see their connection with the family you grew up in, and you are on your way.

Identify...

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When to Have Hope and When to End a Bad Relationship Dec 27, 2020

One of the most crucial elements someone can bring to their life is hope. Among the most powerful forces in the universe, hope gives energy, sustenance, and direction to people to keep going, and to win against all odds. With hope, we can endure almost anything, and certainly more than if we lose...

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I Want You to Frustrate People - Here's Why Dec 24, 2020

I have some questions for you. 

Is someone else going to decide how next year goes? Is someone else going to stop you from living to your fullest potential?

Or... are you in charge?

That’s what I want for you. I want you to leave a trail of frustrated people in your wake in 2021. I...

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What it Means to be Independent from Your Mom Dec 22, 2020

If you had a controlling mom, you’ve most likely experienced problems in separation, autonomy, and individualization — becoming your own person. We’ll go through the necessary steps to repair yourself, but first, let’s clarify the real problem.

A controlling mom may be the...

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