Love at First Sight is a Myth Mar 11, 2021

Love at first sight is a myth. It should be called “brain damage” for two reasons. First, you have to have brain damage to have love at first sight, and second, if you do think what you’re feeling is love, it will bring much damage to your brain as you move further along in the...

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It's Not Your Job to Make Anyone Happy Mar 05, 2021

I was talking to a young man one day about his girlfriend. He was thinking about taking the next step in their relationship, and he had questions. Several times during the conversation, he said that something she did or something about the relationship did not “make him happy.” It was...

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You Cannot Make The Person You’re Dating Grow Up Mar 05, 2021

Kaitlyn was weary of Steven’s chronic lateness when they would try to get together. Because he owned his own business, he was often delayed. It seemed like such a little thing, but as time passed, Steven’s tardiness became a big problem. Kaitlyn would arrange her day to meet for...

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How Freedom and Responsibility Can Transform a Relationship Feb 20, 2021

Many of the struggles people experience in dating and marriage relationships are, at heart, caused by some problem in the areas of freedom and responsibility. By freedom, we mean your ability to make choices based on your values, rather than choosing out of fear or guilt. Free people make...

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Why You Should Change the Way You Think About Dating Feb 19, 2021

Mikkalah had wanted to be dating for a while, but it wasn't happening for her.  She was an intelligent, fun and interesting person, so there seemed no good reason for her lack of dates other than her strategy.  Her "traffic patterns," as I call them, never placed her in situations where...

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The Worst Relationship is the One You Can't Let Go of Feb 19, 2021

"So why don't you tell him that you want to break up with him?" I asked Monica about her boyfriend, Brian. "You keep telling me over and over about this issue that just doesn't go away."

"Because he has so many wonderful qualities," she said. "There are so many things I love about him."

"Like...

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Is Dating About Getting Married? Feb 19, 2021

In this clip from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Cloud talks to a caller about the pressure to date for the purpose of getting married.

It’s a perception that puts so much pressure on singles and can take the fun away from dating, so Dr. Cloud explains how to change your perception about dating so...

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8 Things Every Healthy Relationship Needs Feb 14, 2021

Relationships grow in a healthy manner only as they undergo experiences, and there is no shortcut to experiences. In other words, we only "know" each other to the extent that we have experience with each other. We can know facts about the person we are dating: their friends, job, hobbies, and so...

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How to Help a Spouse Who Has Childhood Trauma Feb 13, 2021

A caller’s husband is ready to confront his childhood trauma at 44 years old, but as he faces the demons that have haunted his past, her husband has become withdrawn and depressed. She says that he stays out in a camper near their house, and she’s concerned about his overall...

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How the Pandemic Has Affected Our Mental Health Feb 11, 2021

In this clip from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Henry Cloud speaks who a caller who talks about the depression and anxiety she’s faced in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic. Dr. Cloud explains that we were created with a framework that provides structure in our lives, and when the Coronavirus...

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Why Do Nice People Attract Jerks? Feb 11, 2021

The question that many people wonder is "If I'm nice, then why do I keep attracting such jerks?" They think that something is inherently wrong with them, and sometimes they can begin to get quite hopeless over their chances of finding good friends, someone good to date, or building a great...

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Attachment Styles that Lead to Failure in Relationships Feb 11, 2021

Every relationship needs to have two essential components that work together, or it’s destined for failure.

 

A relationship needs to have the glue that keeps it together, and that there’s an attachment that’s not easily broken. At the same time, there has to be another...

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