The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Dr. Dan Allender - The Clarity of Your Calling podcast Apr 07, 2020

In this episode of Dr. Cloud's Boundaries.Me podcast, Dr. Dan Allender tells the story of how clarity around what he's uniquely meant to do in this world helped him naturally form boundaries.

When we know our calling, it gives us clarity as to why we're doing what we're doing. Forming...

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People Who Try to Control You with Their Feelings Are Immature Apr 06, 2020

Jim came into therapy because of his inability to get things done at home. He said, “I am irresponsible, and my wife is very displeased with me. I can’t seem to follow through on anything.”

“What sorts of things don’t you follow through on?” I asked.

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Understanding PTSD and Our Military Apr 02, 2020

I will never forget the day that I was almost taken out by a U.S. Marine. I was a little kid working in a boat dealership when I walked into the shop one day and said, “Hey Tommy, have you seen that spare tire for the trailer?” When I did, I startled Tommy, a Viet Nam...

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Why Isolation is So Toxic to You and How to Find Healthy Relationships Apr 02, 2020

Whether it’s maintaining personal health, thriving in a certain situation, reaching goals or organizational performance, fulfillment requires our reliance on the “others” in our circle. We need them. And our outcomes greatly depend on the quality of how those...

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Dr. Les Carter - Boundaries Around a Healthy Identity Mar 31, 2020

 

Who are you going to be?

Dr. Les Carter is a therapist and best-selling author of “When Pleasing You is Killing Me” and “The Anger Trip." In this episode of the podcast, he shares with us his story about setting a boundary around staying centered on being himself....

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How to Deal with Critical People in Your Life Mar 31, 2020

Several years ago I had spoken at a leadership conference, and I was walking down the hall backstage with a friend of mine, who happened to be the event host. We were talking about the incredible growth and reach of her organization and all the great work it was doing, but something else also...

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Telling Yourself to ‘Get Over It' Simply Doesn’t Work Mar 30, 2020

Paul came into therapy because his wife was frustrated with his emotional distance from the children. As we explored what made it difficult for him to connect with his children, I asked Paul about his own father.

His father was wonderful, Paul told me, and he had always looked up to him. "It...

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Dr. Henry Cloud - The Micro-steps to Sanity in a Crisis Mar 26, 2020


I hope you're doing alright. We're still in the early stages of a crisis and you might be experiencing feelings of being a little lost and adrift right now, or maybe a little unmotivated... well there are some reasons for that. You lose some control when the structures of life disappear. When...

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How to Take Control During A Crisis Mar 26, 2020

We have all felt the anxiety hearing the replays of crucial 911 calls. We can identify with the caller in these touch and go moments. And we have heard calls sometimes where the operator doesn’t seem to “get it,” that something really frightening is happening for the person. At...

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4 Things You Can Do For Your Mental Health During the COVID-19 Crisis Mar 25, 2020

When you go through a crisis, the first thing to go through your brain is, “Something has changed, and everything is different!” So, how do we adjust and adapt?

1. Connection. How connected you feel to others is fuel to life. In order to thrive, we have to have safe connections to...

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Dr. Henry Cloud - Being Psychologically Healthy During Times of Crisis podcast Mar 20, 2020


In this special edition of The Boundaries.Me Podcast, Dr. Henry Cloud talks about what happens to a human in a time of big crisis. How does that affect us? What are the best things that you can be doing in the midst of that for your psyche, for your heart and for your relationships? One of...

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Danny Silk - Respectful Communication podcast Mar 19, 2020

One of the most trying parts of a relationship is when respect breaks down. When that happens, contempt is not far away, and contempt will end relationships.

In this episode of the Boundaries.Me Podcast, Danny Silk, a pastor and author, tells us about how he progressed in his relationships by...

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