The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Dr. Dan Allender - The Clarity of Your Calling

podcast Apr 07, 2020

In this episode of Dr. Cloud's Boundaries.Me podcast, Dr. Dan Allender tells the story of how clarity around what he's uniquely meant to do in this world helped him naturally form boundaries.

When we know our calling, it gives us clarity as to why we're doing what we're doing. Forming boundaries can start in many different ways, but getting clear about your motives is a very natural way to form your first boundary. It helps you know what you'll do and won't do, what you'll say and won't say. A good sign of a healthy boundary is that it lets us learn and take in new information. It teaches us that every yes is no, and every no a yes that can either can keep us in tune with our calling, or detract us from it.


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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Dr. Henry Cloud - Being Psychologically Healthy During Times of Crisis

podcast Mar 20, 2020


In this special edition of The Boundaries.Me Podcast, Dr. Henry Cloud talks about what happens to a human in a time of big crisis. How does that affect us? What are the best things that you can be doing in the midst of that for your psyche, for your heart and for your relationships? One of the things that we know about humans is that we are unbelievably resilient. We adapt. We find ways through hard times. We come out stronger on the other end. 

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Danny Silk - Respectful Communication

podcast Mar 19, 2020

One of the most trying parts of a relationship is when respect breaks down. When that happens, contempt is not far away, and contempt will end relationships.

In this episode of the Boundaries.Me Podcast, Danny Silk, a pastor and author, tells us about how he progressed in his relationships by setting a firm boundary around respectful communication. Between his two parents, and his wife’s two parents and step father, there have been 15 marriages. Both he and his wife come from backgrounds that did not teach about healthy relationships. Through love, and time, they discovered the peace that comes from keeping calm and showing respect in all communication. When communication breaks down and the conversation turns to anger, they’ve learned to stop and reset. 

It’s not an easy thing to do, and it takes practice, but learning to stop yourself from speaking or listening when anger and frustration are steering the conversation is one of the most important lessons to...

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Jo Saxton - Guarding Yourself From Your Flaws

podcast Mar 17, 2020

Boundaries can free us to lead our lives by unburdening us from our flaws and past mistakes. It’s like a quarantine. It may seem as though boundaries prevent freedom, but in most cases, it’s the exact opposite. 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me Podcast, Jo Saxton, an author, public speaker, and host of the Lead Stories Podcast, tells us about how setting a boundary around her brokenness was a turning point in her life. Pain will do all kinds of things to the mind, and our first reactions to mental pain when we’re young often exacerbate things. That’s part of Jo’s story. She found solace in denial, and in drinking too much. It happens all the time. Through some good luck and hard work, she found a way to move forward and to forgive her flaws by releasing them to a boundary. She knew there were consequences to going to certain places in her mind, and setting the boundary freed her to start leading her life. 

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Pat Lencioni - Boundaries Around What Matters Most

podcast Mar 12, 2020

What matters most to you? This is often the first place to start when we begin creating boundaries in our lives.

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me podcast, Pat Lencioni shares with us his story of creating a boundary around prioritizing his family. He’s discovered that boundaries start with his family, and that if work or other relationships begin to take precedent, he suffers. Ironically, he’s found that by keeping his time with his family sacred, he’s more efficient at work, sees increased productivity, and has healthier relationships overall. Pat says the boundary isn’t necessarily about time, but the emphasis is around prioritizing his family’s needs and the role he plays in their life to serve them. Having this boundary, he says, gives him peace.

So, consider this: Boundaries do us no good if they’re not maintained. If you make a boundary with the emotional consequences in mind, you’ll  feel when it’s...

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Christine Caine - Stop Taking Everything Personally

podcast Mar 10, 2020

Have you ever received criticism that stuck with you? Most of us can think back to something someone said that offended us, and we’re still carrying that doubt or shame.

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me Podcast, Christine Caine -- an activist, author, and public speaker -- shares with us the story of how she came to realize she was taking personal offense far too often. It was undermining her working relationships and taking a toll on the rest of her life. She took some growth steps to understand that if she started to take criticism personally, she was really being triggered by something else.

We have to learn to observe what’s happening to us in order to change it, and that’s the boundary she set: when the offense-alarm went off, rather than getting defensive, she goes to a place of observation. This practice has led her to peace and healthier relationships. 


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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Liz Bohanan - Boundaries and Mutual Respect in Marriage

podcast Mar 05, 2020

 

Showing mutual respect towards your partner is something we all strive to do. It sounds like something that should be easy to convey, but in practice our relationships are never that simple.

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud’s Boundaries.Me podcast, Liz Bohannon, author, speaker and co-founder and CEO of Sseko Designs, shares with us the importance of establishing work-life boundaries with her husband and Co-CEO. They have a rule: they have to ask for permission to talk about work outside of work. 

Whether it’s work-life balance, or something else entirely, establishing a boundary with your partner about when and where you’ll have conversations about difficult or potentially stressful issues is an essential part of creating a loving, safe relationship.

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The Boundaries.Me Podcast: Lysa TerKeurst - Know Your Spiritual Capacity

podcast Mar 03, 2020


Being honest with ourselves about what we can and can't put up with is crucial to becoming a healthy person. 

In this episode of Dr. Henry Cloud's Boundaries.Me podcast, Lysa TerKeurst shares a very personal story about how setting a boundary around her spiritual capacity changed her life. She realized that there were limits to how much she can give, and that when she gave too much, she couldn't function. It's a form of people-pleasing that caring people will have to confront. Setting this boundary allowed her to shift from a place of trying to have control over how other people feel, to a place of compassion, and it ultimately helped save her marriage.

Lysa is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, Uninvited, and 20 other books. As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa and her team have led thousands to make their walk with God an invigorating journey through daily online devotionals.


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