How to Stop Feeling so Exhausted Oct 12, 2020

Talk to enough people and you will find that exhaustion is widespread, especially during this time of year. Managing a fulfilling life at home, a successful career, maintaining friendships, staying on top of your health and physical fitness, and getting enough sleep — it can seem as though...

Continue Reading...
How to Keep Drama Out of Your Life Oct 12, 2020

Life is full of traps. Sometimes this fact is never more apparent than in our relationships with others. One of the biggest traps that we all fall into at one time or another is getting stuck in the whirlpool of unnecessary drama.

You know what I’m talking about: that friend who may have...

Continue Reading...
Confronting the People Who Create Unsafe Relationships Oct 12, 2020

If you’ve read my book, Power of the Other, you know that we talk about the Four Corners. This means that there are only four possibilities for relational connection.

In Corner #2, we talk about bad connections.

A “bad connection” leaves you feeling like you are...

Continue Reading...
Two Categories of Liars to Set Boundaries With Oct 12, 2020

When we think about setting boundaries in relationships, we have to consider the fact that you may encounter someone who may lie to you, which raises the question – why do people lie, and what can you do about it?

There are really two categories of liars. First, there are liars who lie out...

Continue Reading...
Recognize Toxic Patterns and Put and End to Them Oct 12, 2020

Elle was a talent manager in the entertainment business, overseeing the careers of film and television actors. She and I became acquainted after a media interview I did while she happened to be in the studio. After hearing my interview on boundaries, she walked up and introduced herself and asked...

Continue Reading...
Your Sadness Doesn’t Equal Weakness Oct 09, 2020

Sadness is our next basic emotion, for it tells us about hurt and loss. We live in a world where we get hurt and lose things. We need it to help us grieve and let go. If we repress and deny sadness, there is inevitable depression. Unresolved sadness always leads to depression and often other...

Continue Reading...
7 Ways to Reclaim Your Power Oct 09, 2020

In some senses, I hate to even use the word "power." It seems hackneyed, like we are going back to the eighties. Power ties, power lunches, power suits. The last thing I want to sound like it one of those motivational speaker types telling you to find the power within. So accept my disclaimer....

Continue Reading...
Recover Well From Divorce - A Live Webinar with Dr. Henry Cloud Oct 09, 2020

There is hope to heal from the pain and grief of divorce. You can trust again. You can recover all of the good that you lost, and more. Take this step to make the rest of your life the best years of your life.

Recover Well From Divorce is a live online event where you'll experience 2 hours...

Continue Reading...
You Can Create Separateness from Your Mom and Thrive Oct 08, 2020

Julia was in her early 30s when she began discussing the ideas of separateness, differences, and boundaries with her mother. It wasn’t easy at first: Mom thought Julia was rejecting her as a person. But they both persevered in the relationship. Mom agreed to respond to Julia’s truth...

Continue Reading...
How to Break the Pattern of Enabling a Spouse’s Addiction, Behavior Oct 07, 2020

Emily came into therapy because of “panic attacks.” Her husband’s increased drinking was causing problems at home. She tried to be loving and supportive, but this was doing no good; it was making matters worse.

She had begun to read some books on setting limits on abusive...

Continue Reading...
How to Disagree and Come to An Amicable Resolution Sep 30, 2020

Any good confrontation takes into account that two people are involved. This sounds obvious, but it really isn’t, and it is an essential part of an effective boundary conversation.

One reason you have a problem in the first place is that you and the person you want to confront are not of...

Continue Reading...
When to Take the Risks that are Worth it Sep 29, 2020

Do you ever let your fears hold you back? Of course you do, we all do. Maybe if we were a bit more honest about our fears, we wouldn't have to be prisoners to them. Fear is a mechanism that allows us to avoid stuff that is unknown, scary, unpleasant or hard. Fears can be painful, and I'm not...

Continue Reading...