Use Boundaries to Help Someone in Need Without Enabling Oct 25, 2020

People on the go often have dependent relationships that they don’t know what to do with. These are individuals who, for any number of reasons, have tremendous life struggles and challenges and often deal with grave problems. They are needy and ask for a great deal of time, energy, and...

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The Addictive Habits That Ruin Relationships Oct 25, 2020

Sometimes when activities are meeting some need other than those they are intended to meet, you can become attached or addicted to that behavior. You develop a need for it to perform some function that regulates how you feel. For example, some people develop an inordinate need for food when they...

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Is Dating Only About Finding 'The One'? Oct 23, 2020

What is the point of dating? Ask ten people and you may get ten different answers, but they generally fall into two camps. The first says that you should date people to find a potential partner for life. The second says that you should date people, basically, to have fun, and if something more...

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How to Say No as a Mom Oct 22, 2020

I remember Elisa Morgan once describing a mom as one of those juice boxes with multiple straws coming out of it, with little ones sucking energy out all day long. Not a bad description of the kind of demands that moms find themselves under each and every day. Add to that being a working mom, or a...

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Don’t Live in the False Reality of a Toxic Relationship Oct 21, 2020

So why don't you tell him that you want to break up with him?" I asked Misty about her boyfriend, Evan.

"You keep telling me over and over about this issue that just doesn't go away."

"Because he has so many wonderful qualities," she said. "There are so many things I love about him."

"Like what?"...

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The 4 Structures We Need to Create Healthy Lives Oct 21, 2020

A year or so ago at Dave Ramsey's Smart Conference, I got to sit down with Rachel Cruze and talk about the four key components that give us healthy, fulfilling lives.

We were all designed in a certain way. If you take a house, for example, it was designed for a specific purpose — to give us...

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Don’t Accept the Guilt a Manipulator Wants to Give you Oct 20, 2020

When is the last time someone made you feel guilty even though you know you shouldn't have felt that way?

Guilt is a difficult emotion. It's not actually a feeling the way that sadness, anger or fear are. It's our conscience punishing us by saying, "You are bad."

Guilt comes mainly from how we...

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Just Because You Forgive, it Doesn’t Mean You Have to Trust Again Oct 20, 2020


“I know I’m supposed to forgive,” a woman said to me at a seminar. “But, I just can’t open myself up to that kind of hurt anymore. I know I should forgive him and trust him, but if I let him back in, the same thing will happen, and I can’t go through that...

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Keep Your Money - Try Boundaries.Me Oct 20, 2020

As my team and I continue to listen to your feedback, we strive to make Boundaries.Me the best resource to aid in your personal journey. It truly warms our hearts to hear about the growth you’ve experienced, and we hope Boundaries.Me can be that place for you. 

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Your Past Mistakes Don’t Own You Oct 16, 2020

You know that feeling when you make a mistake, and rather than owning it, you just swallow it and push it down with all the other bad stuff that you plan on dealing with some day in the undefined future?

When we were young, many of us bounced from mistake to mistake with all the innocence and...

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How to Get Past the Fear to do Really Hard Things Oct 12, 2020

Fear is the biggest obstacle we all deal with. The nature of fear is to get in the way. When we want to do something, or we want to learn how to do something, but we hold back because it seems like the thing we want to do will be too hard -- that’s fear.

I would like to suggest a way of...

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What to do When Your Spouse Won't Respect Your Boundaries Oct 12, 2020

Usually the quiet one in her group, Leah spoke up. The topic of discussion was “conflict resolution,” and she couldn’t be silent another second. “I know how to present facts and arguments about my opinion in a caring way. But my husband will walk out on me if I start...

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