Why You Should Change the Way You Think About Dating Feb 19, 2021

Mikkalah had wanted to be dating for a while, but it wasn't happening for her.  She was an intelligent, fun and interesting person, so there seemed no good reason for her lack of dates other than her strategy.  Her "traffic patterns," as I call them, never placed her in situations where...

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The Worst Relationship is the One You Can't Let Go of Feb 19, 2021

"So why don't you tell him that you want to break up with him?" I asked Monica about her boyfriend, Brian. "You keep telling me over and over about this issue that just doesn't go away."

"Because he has so many wonderful qualities," she said. "There are so many things I love about him."

"Like...

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Is Dating About Getting Married? Feb 19, 2021

In this clip from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Cloud talks to a caller about the pressure to date for the purpose of getting married.

It’s a perception that puts so much pressure on singles and can take the fun away from dating, so Dr. Cloud explains how to change your perception about dating so...

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How to Help a Spouse Who Has Childhood Trauma Feb 13, 2021

A caller’s husband is ready to confront his childhood trauma at 44 years old, but as he faces the demons that have haunted his past, her husband has become withdrawn and depressed. She says that he stays out in a camper near their house, and she’s concerned about his overall...

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How the Pandemic Has Affected Our Mental Health Feb 11, 2021

In this clip from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Henry Cloud speaks who a caller who talks about the depression and anxiety she’s faced in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic. Dr. Cloud explains that we were created with a framework that provides structure in our lives, and when the Coronavirus...

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Why Do Nice People Attract Jerks? Feb 11, 2021

The question that many people wonder is "If I'm nice, then why do I keep attracting such jerks?" They think that something is inherently wrong with them, and sometimes they can begin to get quite hopeless over their chances of finding good friends, someone good to date, or building a great...

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Attachment Styles that Lead to Failure in Relationships Feb 11, 2021

Every relationship needs to have two essential components that work together, or it’s destined for failure.

 

A relationship needs to have the glue that keeps it together, and that there’s an attachment that’s not easily broken. At the same time, there has to be another...

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Why Singles Get Frustrated With Dating and What They Can Do Feb 10, 2021

I hear this all the time when I’m talking to frustrated singles.

“Maybe God doesn’t want me to be married.”

Generally when people say that, it's a conclusion they're drawing from the results that they're getting. I think that answer is often given out of despair and not...

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An Exercise to Help Moms with Postpartum Fears, Feelings Feb 10, 2021

The birth of a child can send a mom into a spiral of powerful emotions, many of which may include anxiety or symptoms of depression. In this clip from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Cloud talks to a parent of a 2-year-old who has another on the way. The mom says she’s struggling with getting past...

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Is Dating Just About Getting Married? Feb 09, 2021

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari, like they're trying to land the trophy. There are a number of things wrong with that. Number one, they're looking for "the one." When they get in that mindset, it keeps them from meeting lots of different people that may have attributes or...

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How to Support a Loved One With Depression Feb 09, 2021

If you’ve ever seen a friend or a loved one suffer from depression, you experience your own hurt as you see them struggle. You come from a genuine place when you think about just wanting them to get back to normal, that good place where they feel like themselves. The person who is in front...

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Someone Else's Feelings Aren't Yours to Own Dec 29, 2020

Our feelings, whether good or bad, are our property. They fall within our boundaries. Our feelings are our responsibility; others’ feelings are their responsibility. If other people feel sad, it is their sadness. This does not mean that they do not need someone else to be with them in their...

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