Don’t Live in the False Reality of a Toxic Relationship Oct 21, 2020

So why don't you tell him that you want to break up with him?" I asked Misty about her boyfriend, Evan.

"You keep telling me over and over about this issue that just doesn't go away."

"Because he has so many wonderful qualities," she said. "There are so many things I love about him."

"Like what?"...

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The 4 Structures We Need to Create Healthy Lives Oct 21, 2020

A year or so ago at Dave Ramsey's Smart Conference, I got to sit down with Rachel Cruze and talk about the four key components that give us healthy, fulfilling lives.

We were all designed in a certain way. If you take a house, for example, it was designed for a specific purpose — to give us...

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Don’t Accept the Guilt a Manipulator Wants to Give you Oct 20, 2020

When is the last time someone made you feel guilty even though you know you shouldn't have felt that way?

Guilt is a difficult emotion. It's not actually a feeling the way that sadness, anger or fear are. It's our conscience punishing us by saying, "You are bad."

Guilt comes mainly from how we...

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Just Because You Forgive, it Doesn’t Mean You Have to Trust Again Oct 20, 2020


“I know I’m supposed to forgive,” a woman said to me at a seminar. “But, I just can’t open myself up to that kind of hurt anymore. I know I should forgive him and trust him, but if I let him back in, the same thing will happen, and I can’t go through that...

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Keep Your Money - Try Boundaries.Me Oct 20, 2020

As my team and I continue to listen to your feedback, we strive to make Boundaries.Me the best resource to aid in your personal journey. It truly warms our hearts to hear about the growth you’ve experienced, and we hope Boundaries.Me can be that place for you. 

We’ve heard...

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Your Past Mistakes Don’t Own You Oct 16, 2020

You know that feeling when you make a mistake, and rather than owning it, you just swallow it and push it down with all the other bad stuff that you plan on dealing with some day in the undefined future?

When we were young, many of us bounced from mistake to mistake with all the innocence and...

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How to Get Past the Fear to do Really Hard Things Oct 12, 2020

Fear is the biggest obstacle we all deal with. The nature of fear is to get in the way. When we want to do something, or we want to learn how to do something, but we hold back because it seems like the thing we want to do will be too hard -- that’s fear.

I would like to suggest a way of...

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What to do When Your Spouse Won't Respect Your Boundaries Oct 12, 2020

Usually the quiet one in her group, Leah spoke up. The topic of discussion was “conflict resolution,” and she couldn’t be silent another second. “I know how to present facts and arguments about my opinion in a caring way. But my husband will walk out on me if I start...

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How to Stop Feeling so Exhausted Oct 12, 2020

Talk to enough people and you will find that exhaustion is widespread, especially during this time of year. Managing a fulfilling life at home, a successful career, maintaining friendships, staying on top of your health and physical fitness, and getting enough sleep — it can seem as though...

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How to Keep Drama Out of Your Life Oct 12, 2020

Life is full of traps. Sometimes this fact is never more apparent than in our relationships with others. One of the biggest traps that we all fall into at one time or another is getting stuck in the whirlpool of unnecessary drama.

You know what I’m talking about: that friend who may have...

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Confronting the People Who Create Unsafe Relationships Oct 12, 2020

If you’ve read my book, Power of the Other, you know that we talk about the Four Corners. This means that there are only four possibilities for relational connection.

In Corner #2, we talk about bad connections.

A “bad connection” leaves you feeling like you are...

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Two Categories of Liars to Set Boundaries With Oct 12, 2020

When we think about setting boundaries in relationships, we have to consider the fact that you may encounter someone who may lie to you, which raises the question – why do people lie, and what can you do about it?

There are really two categories of liars. First, there are liars who lie out...

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