Empathize with Others Hurting This Holiday SeasonDec 21, 2020
The holidays can be a tough time for people that are feeling down. If you're not feeling holiday cheer, many people think you're a grinch.
But not everyone wants to “deck the halls” and sing “fa-la-la-la-la.”
Some people get the holiday blues every year, whether because of some bad memories or past experiences that they haven't dealt with, or simply because of the stress. Others have experienced misfortune recently: a bad breakup or the loss of a job. Likewise, people dealing with serious depression don't get a break from their demons just because Santa is coming to town.
It's important to remember that life doesn't stop happening to people just because there are Christmas lights out. Life can be messy and real, and we have to make room in our hearts to understand that some people are dealing with a lot this season.
One of the worst things we can do to people is to tell them how they should feel. That's a one-way communication and it invalidates that person's experience of reality.
"Don't feel down, it's Christmas!"
To a person who's hurting, Christmas can seem like such an arbitrary 'thing.' Or, worse, it can serve as a painful reminder that things aren't going your way. An oppressive force.
If you have someone in your life that is dealing with emotional pain or psychological issues, try to be extra understanding of what they're going through this holiday season. This is a time of year about giving. Give those people the respect and freedom to feel the way they authentically feel.