How to Stay in Control When You Confront SomeoneAug 26, 2020
If you are the one doing the confronting, and you believe you’ve prepared well for it, then you likely have the self-control to evaluate and speak to another’s behavior. Remember, you’re doing this from a stance of love for the person and the relationship.
Although you’ve prepared well, we all know that it doesn’t turn you into a robot that has no feelings or reactions.
Difficult people often have a strategy to get you upset and out of control. Just as a toddler infuriates his parent until he is in control of the out-of-control parent, some difficult people can arouse your emotions until they are in control of you. In fact, people with their behavior problems and toddlers have many developmental similarities. The key is to not regress into a toddler yourself!
Stay in charge of the only person you can control: yourself. Do not get hooked into saying something you will regret; if you feel that happening, take a breath or a timeout before you say anything. There is nothing wrong with saying, “I am going to just be quiet here for a moment,” or, “I need a moment to gather my thoughts.” It is better to be silent to say something you might regret.
Stay in control, and stick to your agenda. I absolutely believe you can do it!