You Don't Have to Get Used to Living in MiseryJul 14, 2020
Life and business involve pain. Sometimes, creating an ending might cause a little hurt, like pulling a tooth. But it is good pain. If gives life to you or to your business. Similarly, the rosebush snaps back when it gets pruned.
But there is another kind of pain, one that should not be embraced, one that you want to do everything in your power to end. The pain I am referring to is misery that goes nowhere. That is not normal, and when it happens, it is time to wake up. It is time to realize that anytime pain is going nowhere fast, a few things must be occurring.
First, you might have become acclimated to the misery in some way. You have gotten so used to it that you no longer feel it as pain but view it as normal. Pain by nature is a signal that something is wrong, and action is required. So pain should be driving you to do something to end it. But if you are not making moves to end the dull misery of something going nowhere, then you may have told yourself nothing is really "wrong" - it is just the way it is. You are stuck with a chronic ache that has started to feel like the new normal.
Sometimes we are stuck for reasons that are truly outside of our control. But more times than we realize, we are not executing an ending because of internal factor, not external ones. Neuroscience research shows that your mind actually develops something akin to hardwiring so that you think and behave automatically. So when your hardwiring has adapted to accept some sort of "stuck reality." you will live out being stuck there. It has become "just normal" to be stuck and put up with a situation that awaits a necessary ending.
The good news it that it doesn't have to stay that way. Neuroscience and experience have shown that we can change, and new pathways and maps can be built that change the way we think and the way we perform.
When we take the steps to become healthy, we recognize the toxic patterns that keep us miserable. What steps are you taking to get out of being stuck?
I have a couple of resources that may help you from here, and it is my hope they bring you some encouragement today. Check these out!
How to Create a Necessary Ending
The Science Behind Being Happy
How to Get Your Needs Met