It is easy to blame ourselves for our past failures. We think that if only we had tried harder, or been more careful, we could have avoided the outcome we are now facing. We may even beat ourselves up for not being able to accomplish something that we really wanted. While it is important to learn...
When we talk about panic attacks, we examine the medical and psychological aspects of the disorder.
The medical aspects:
Panic disorder is a problem that has a lot to do with the body. Certainly in terms of emotional problems, anxiety disorders are some of the most strongly physiologically-...
Ah, people pleasers. We all know the type. Some of us have been the type! And some of us still are.
People pleasers are those who habitually put others' needs and wishes above their own. They may do this to win approval, avoid conflict, or simply because they feel it is their duty. Whatever the...
Research tells us that around 80-90% of what you think today will be more or less the same thoughts that you had yesterday. The vast majority of our thoughts happen automatically. The implications of this are very important, because our automatic thoughts may not always reflect such a kind...
What is the number one most important factor that determines how well you do in life?
Your relationships. Who you choose to be invested in, and who will invest in you. That does more to determine where you end up in every area of life than any other factor.
There is a construct that I like to use...
What does entitlement mean? The word literally means that someone has the right to something. However, entitled people believe that they automatically have the right to something.
When you go to the store and pick out some groceries, you hand over some money and then you are entitled to those...
How do we get past the gap from here to there? How do you reach your goals? How do you even set the right goals? A lot of this comes down to how we think and look at thinks.
Perhaps you’ve heard the expression, ‘The man who thinks he can, and the man who thinks he can’t are both...
The spiritual life is the real life. Everything we see comes from the unseen.
When we see a big skyscraper, it could have started with a little girl who used to like playing with blocks. As she grew up, she developed her interest in design and building. She went to school to study how buildings...
The dangerous part of rejection is how it is internalized by our brain, heart, and soul. Rejection can often affect the way you view yourself. It is important to examine how the rejection is changing or shaping that view. Depending on the level of rejection, it could include feelings of sadness,...
The process of bonding and attachment is the emotional and spiritual adhering of ourselves to another person. It is a foundational aspect of development. It is where we download and internalize the love that will empower us to grow in the future.
Bonding, connection, and attachment are important...
When we feel powerless, we may believe that we have no control over our lives and that we are powerless to change our circumstances. This can lead to learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is a psychological condition in which a person believes that they are unable to control the events in...
What do you do when you’re on the other end of a relationship with a narcissist?
It’s good to know what you’re dealing with.
The first thing that you need to do is to normalize your feelings. You can’t get strategic with your emotions until you label them appropriately....
