Healthy relationships require freedom. Boundaries are set in order to protect the individual thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of each person, so that they can bring their whole selves to the relationship. Boundary-less relationships can experience many types of dysfunction, but one way that a...
It is important to be able to say the word no to people in your life, in your relationships, your work, and other areas of life. The ability to say no is a sign of strength and self-respect. It shows that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you are not a doormat.
If you have a hard...
Rejection hurts, and sometimes it really, really hurts? Why is that. Well, for starters, there is a biological and neurochemical reason that the pain of rejection hurts so much. You’re not overreacting. Your brain is working overtime processing these feelings.
If you’ve recently...
This month marks 5 years since we started Boundaries.Me. We are so grateful for the opportunity that we have had to be of service to our community. We created Boundaries.Me to be instructive, useful, and informative; to add structure, and to help you find healing and avoid unnecessary pain.
We...
Do you ever feel like someone is causing you to lose your grip on reality? If so, you may be a victim of gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser tries to make the victim question their own version of events, memory, or perception. This can make the victim...
God places a high premium on the value of asking directly for help. Forms of the word ask appear almost 800 times in the Bible, many of them an invitation from God for us to ask for things:
“If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” (Matt. 21:22)
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Many of us live our entire lives surrounded by barbed wire without any trees to break our fall. We try to pick safe, loving, faithful friends and spouses. And over and over again, we become disappointed and discouraged.
God created us to hunger and thirst for love, because love is our fuel. And...
One of the most important aspects of your character in life, without question, is one’s ability to confront. It is true that you get what you tolerate. If the nature of reality is that there are always problems, if you do not confront them and instead tolerate them, then problems are what...
I was speaking to parents one time about raising kids with successful character. In the Q and A a woman raised her hand and asked, “If you could tell parents what the one thing is that is most important to teach their kids about success, what would it be?”
“I would teach them...
If we are afraid of the truth about ourselves and have a character “stance” to hide, then we are headed in the wrong direction, away from reality. Think of the character issues that get in the way and create this kind of fear:
- Fear of seeing that I am wrong or have faults that are...
Connection and trust happen when one heart meets another. Invalidation wipes out the other heart and closes it off. Think of the contexts of life that change when a person has the ability to connect with someone else. In business, deals are won and sales are made. In personal relationships,...
Researchers write that, when it comes to how people look at their work, there are three kinds of people:
- Those who see their work as a “job,” with its main purpose being to provide a living
- Those who see their work as a “career,” with the main purpose of advancement...
