Our relationships are the most powerful in our lives, for good and for bad. Our best relationships fuel us. They help us to grow and to be our best selves, they connect us with our purpose, and they connect us with other safe people. They bring us closer to our values, and to God. Unsafe people...
The founder and chairman of the board of a company reached out to me, saying, “I need some help. Can we get together and talk?” His company’s new CEO had great understanding, motive and other qualities of trust, but one important one was missing: the ability needed in the...
Anger has the capacity to either destroy a relationship or save one. How can one emotion be so destructive and yet have the potential to save a relationship? It all depends on how that anger is used.
Anger functions as a signal to let us know about our current state of being. All emotions are...
Misplaced trust happens in the heart, mind and soul like infection happens in the body. And when we’ve been sickened or infected by mistrust, we do NOT want to go through it again. But there are lessons we can learn about ourselves that will make us more immune to mistrust in the future.
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Natural consequences are an essential aspect of the human experience, and a key part of healthy boundaries. They refer to the outcomes that naturally occur as a result of our actions or decisions. For example, if we decide to skip a meal, the natural consequence may be feeling hungry later on.
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Unsafe people cover a wide range of possible behaviors and relationships. On the one end there are those individuals who, whether intentionally or not, have a tendency to thwart our efforts to become the best version of ourselves that we can possibly be. They get us off track by distracting us,...
Consider this: you find yourself at odds with someone from work, but you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why. Or perhaps you’re struggling with a family dynamic. You love these people and want the best for them, but the trust just isn’t there.
Trust goes far...
Narcissism is a term that is often overused and misunderstood, mostly because determining whether someone is a true narcissism requires a diagnosis by a professional. In the absence of a formal diagnosis, we can certainly say that many individuals exhibit narcissistic tendencies.
When someone...
The Law of Sowing and Reaping is one of the fundamental laws of boundaries. It states that there are consequences, both good and bad, for our actions. It is how we learn and grow. When we hold our breath, for example, our body begins to lose oxygen and we begin reaping what we have sown. This law...
We have been created and designed biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically to trust. When trust is high, it gets all the juices flowing and everything runs well. When trust is low—well, you know what that’s like. When trust is broken, things are even...
Some people think love means never being allowed to say no. For example, having to choose between where to spend Christmas with the in-laws, unless you already agree: one of you will have to hear No. But that does not equate with a lack of love or care. We want to give love, but not give in...
Trust is fuel for connection. When trust is present, a relationship becomes a safe space where each person can invest their time, energy, and other resources and feel safe that it is a sound investment. One of the worst things for trust is to try to enforce control over another person....
