Why It's Difficult for Someone to Receive a Gift

Uncategorized Dec 05, 2019
 

A person who gives often struggles to receive. Why is that? 

A hurt or a pain from the past makes it difficult to receive a gift -- whether it's a compliment or a present. A person who has trouble receiving a gift has likely been betrayed, struggles to feel worthy of someone's goodness, or they don't want to feel like they're a burden and owe someone a favor. 

This holiday season, I'd like to encourage you to open your heart to the gifts of others. Perhaps the person giving is responding to their calling or a prayer. It brings them joy to give or to use their talents, and to deny their gifts is to deny their experience of joy. 

[Note: This is in reference to genuine giving and not in the context of receiving gifts from someone who chooses to do so out of manipulation, control or abuse.]

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Why Compliments Are One of the Best Ways to Improve a Relationship

Uncategorized Dec 03, 2019
 

Think about the last time someone gave you a compliment. How did it make you feel?

Perhaps it was unexpected, and maybe you did something that you didn't think warranted any special attention. But that compliment instantly created a sense of connectedness and closeness to the person who gave it to you. 

Compliments are usually easy to give, especially if they're genuine. (How we receive them may be difficult, but we'll talk about that a bit later!) So, for giving Thursday, I want you to reach out to someone and give them a compliment. Send a text, write them a direct message, call them or just say it to their face! 

Who's been on your mind to compliment? Let them know how you feel! 


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Create Your Good Vibe Tribe for 2020

Uncategorized Dec 03, 2019

Hey everyone,

Today is the last day of our sale. You've only got a few hours left to save big on the streaming coaching service that will give you the daily guidance you need to thrive.

Click here to get huge savings on plans that could save you a lot of money on webinars and in-person events.

If you plan on investing energy in 2020 on:

Feeling better (depression, anxiety, stress)
Relationships (making relationships stronger, stop being controlled, healing broken relationships)
Goals and Dreams (feeling healthy, writing that book, getting that promotion, spending more time with family)

Then please do not delay in signing up for Boundaries.me, as this is the absolute best time of year to do it.

Our courses offer you ongoing coaching, right when you need it, to help you in the big 3 areas of life (feelings, relationships and goals).

The annual subscription is our most popular deal.

The Lifetime Member tier is our best and newest deal.

And as always, we're offering the same great $9 per...

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Let Me Help You Change Your Life

Uncategorized Dec 01, 2019

Whether you're thinking about an annual membership (works out to just $6 per month), a lifetime membership (benefits worth more than $1,500 per year), or just our regular $9 per month offer, now is the time to act. There's just two days left to save on a subscription that will actually change your life.

Click here to sign up so I can coach you.

boundaries.me membership is a huge source of power and growth for our subscribers, but we'd like to share what they have to say about us. We asked subscribers: Why do you stay subscribed to Boundaries.me?

We're keeping names anonymous because we value the privacy of our subscribers.

Here's what they said:


"I am learning a lot with the content that’s provided. I learn from hearing others share their experiences and the suggestions the community provides. I can log in and look for something that is directly in reference to what I’m dealing with at that moment. It is a safe place to go to when I’m in crisis...

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Get the Boundaries You Need for a Lifetime

Uncategorized Nov 30, 2019

We're onto Day 2 of the Black Friday and Cyber Monday Boundaries.me promotion. This thing doesn't last forever, so click here to save at least 33% on content that will actually change your life.

This is the only time of year that our annual memberships are just $72 (which works out to $6 per month).

As always, we're offering our $9 monthly subscription too.

Today, however, we're going to discuss the Lifetime Membership tier. It's the best deal we've ever offered, and we'll explain why.

We created the Lifetime Membership tier because 65% of our surveyed users told us they would like us to offer it. It's that simple. So, we set to work figuring out what that would look like.

A lifetime membership is a one-time fee of $499, but it's actually the best deal we offer. When the events and webinars we're planning in 2020 start rolling around, you're going to be really glad that you purchased the lifetime membership in order to use the extras and savings throughout the year.

For that one-time...

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Get Help From Me When You Need It Most

Uncategorized Nov 29, 2019
 

 

It's that time of year again, and I don' know about you, but I'm excited about what my team and I have to offer for you this holiday season!

I get emails all the time asking about how I can help you, and I'm going to tell you the easiest way to make that happen.

Click here for my best deal of the year, and let me be your coach so that you have a great holiday season, and you're prepared to thrive in 2020!

As some of you know, this is the time of year when we discount our annual membership to $72 per year. That breaks down to just $6 per month (20 cents per day). 60+ hours of coaching videos and courses that will teach you the skills you need to feel better, have stronger relationships and help you meet your goals, and we're adding more courses every month!

This year we're adding a new deal for our community!

Some of you have been with us since the beginning. We know that you appreciate our content because our survey showed that Boundaries.me users rate our content a...

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A Message from Dr. Henry Cloud Ahead of the Holiday Season

Uncategorized Nov 12, 2019

Ok, let's be honest with ourselves. Holidays can be the best and the worst of times. Often there is a mixture of both. We get time with the people who give us the most meaning, fun and fulfillment, and we often“get to" spend time with some that can do the opposite. They can be difficult, or even painful to be around. Yet, for bigger reasons than our own wishes, we need to. Also, there can be activities that bring great fulfillment and some that don't. Again, we often find ourselves squeezed between competing wishes and priorities, ours and others.

Holidays are meant to be a time of meaning. Spiritual, relational, traditional, and other kinds of deep meaning are symbolized by this time. Your heart, soul and spirit long for meaning at this time of year and will be asking you to make sure that they get it. With each decision of how you are going to spend valuable time and energy, use the “meaning meter.” Ask yourself, "Is that really the way I want to spend...

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Tis’ the Season to Set Some Boundaries with Family

Uncategorized Nov 08, 2019

When you were born, you were placed you into a family for a season of time to help you grow into a mature adult. At some point this season ends, and your relationship with your parents changes from child-to-parent to adult-to-adult. The roles change from dependency and authority to mutuality. While you are to respect and care for your mother and father, you are no longer under their protection and tutelage. Children are to obey parents, while adult children are to love and honor them. Therefore, situations will occur where you need to make decisions and set boundaries with family with which they may not agree.

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For example, you might decide to spend some traditional holiday time apart from your family. This can often be a cause for a confrontational talk:

You: “Mom, I wanted to let you know as soon as I could that I’ve made plans to go to the mountains with some friends this Christmas....

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How to Set Boundaries Within a Dysfunctional Family

Uncategorized Nov 05, 2019

Look at your own life situation and see where boundary problems exist with your parents and siblings. The basic question is this: Where have you lost control of your property? Identify those areas and see their connection with the family you grew up in, and you are on your way.

[RELATED: DR. HENRY CLOUD IS OFFERING A FREE COURSE ON SETTING BOUNDARIES FOR THE HOLIDAY SEASON.]

Identify the Conflict

Discover what dynamic is being played out. For example, what “law of boundaries” are you violating? Do you triangulate? Do you take responsibility for a sibling or parent instead of being responsible to them? Do you fail to enforce consequences and end up paying for their behavior? Are you passive and reactive toward them and the conflict?

You cannot stop acting out a dynamic until you understand what you are doing. “Take the log out” of your own eye. Then you will be able to see clearly to deal with your family members. See yourself as the problem and find...

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Take Power Away from Unsafe Family Members

Uncategorized Nov 05, 2019

Becoming an adult is a process of taking on more and more power and responsibility as we become old enough to handle them. Adults identify with the adult role enough to be able to do grown-up things without conflict, including developing a career, engaging in sexuality, establishing mutual friendships, treating other adults as peers, and having opinions. Adults establish a sense of competence over their lives.

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This process of starting as little people and becoming equal with big people begins with bonding, having boundaries and separateness, and resolving good and bad, but ultimately has to do with coming out from under the one-down relationship that a child has to parents and other adults and coming into equal standing as an adult on his or her own. This is the final step of development so that one can exercise their gifts and responsibilities. It is a big leap into...

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