This is How to Put a Stop to Toxic Behavior Dec 19, 2022

It's common to hear people say that others are "stuck in their ways" and sometimes we say it about ourselves. This phrase is often said with confidence and satisfaction because resistance to change brings comfort. This is because change can be painful and avoiding pain is a natural instinct....

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What the Bible Says About Being a People Pleaser Dec 16, 2022

The Bible teaches the importance of serving and giving ourselves to others. John said, “This is how we have come to know love: He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers.” (1 John 3:16, HCSB). We are to practice sacrificial love for each other,...

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Understanding the Impulse to Overreact Dec 14, 2022

Tell me if you’ve ever experienced this before:

You’re in a relationship, and one of you gets a little peeved about some ordinary matter and says something like, "It really bugs me that you don't listen to me.” The other partner reacts by exploding in rage, hurt, or both, in a...

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What to Do When Someone is Angry at You for Setting Boundaries Dec 12, 2022

It can be difficult to deal with someone who responds to your boundaries with anger, especially if they have been controlling you with their anger in the past. However, it is important to remember that their anger is a reflection of their own issues and not a reflection of you or your boundaries....

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Boundaries to Set During the Holidays Dec 07, 2022

The holidays are a wonderful time of year to get together with friends and family, exchange gifts, and spend quality time with loved ones. However, it can also be a time of stress and frustration if boundaries are not set and respected. Setting healthy boundaries during the holidays is essential...

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Don't Hide Your Anger–Use It Dec 07, 2022

Anger, sadness, and fear are all natural emotions that we all experience in our lives. Unfortunately, many of us feel the need to hide these emotions, either out of embarrassment or fear of judgment. So why do so many of us feel the need to conceal our negative emotions in spite of the potential...

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What To Say To A Gaslighter Dec 05, 2022

Gaslighting was chosen by Merriam-Webster as their official word of 2022.

Why?

Well, talk of gaslighting is everywhere these days. That wasn’t always the case.

Gaslighting can happen in any type of relationship, but it is particularly common in romantic relationships and relationships...

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How to Set Boundaries with Your Spouse Nov 23, 2022

It's not uncommon for people to be afraid of setting boundaries with their spouse. After all, boundaries are all about creating limits and saying "no," right? And when we say "no" to our spouse, we're usually saying "no" to something they want or something they're used to getting from us. So it's...

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How to Wipe the Slate Clean and Forgive Yourself Nov 21, 2022

It is easy to blame ourselves for our past failures. We think that if only we had tried harder, or been more careful, we could have avoided the outcome we are now facing. We may even beat ourselves up for not being able to accomplish something that we really wanted. While it is important to learn...

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Let's Talk About Panic Attacks Nov 18, 2022

When we talk about panic attacks, we examine the medical and psychological aspects of the disorder.

The medical aspects:

Panic disorder is a problem that has a lot to do with the body. Certainly in terms of emotional problems, anxiety disorders are some of the most strongly physiologically-...

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How to Handle Conflict as a People Pleaser Nov 16, 2022

Ah, people pleasers. We all know the type. Some of us have been the type! And some of us still are.

People pleasers are those who habitually put others' needs and wishes above their own. They may do this to win approval, avoid conflict, or simply because they feel it is their duty. Whatever the...

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Don’t Let Your Automatic Thoughts Control You Nov 14, 2022

Research tells us that around 80-90% of what you think today will be more or less the same thoughts that you had yesterday. The vast majority of our thoughts happen automatically. The implications of this are very important, because our automatic thoughts may not always reflect such a kind...

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