Why Your Partner Needs to Be Validated to Resolve Conflict Mar 18, 2021

Validation is necessary for couples to navigate successfully through conflict because we all need to be heard and understood. We really don't move forward to resolve conflicts when we do not feel we have been understood.

Think about the last fight you had with your partner. When you were trying...

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Don't Get Stuck on Dating a Certain Type Mar 16, 2021

When you’re stuck on dating a certain “type,” it’s often rooted in pathology.

Britney loved the muscular type. When I tried to get her to go out with someone who did not fit her physical template, she resisted. I pushed, and she finally agreed. Here is what happened.

When...

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How to Get a Date Worth Keeping: A Live Workshop with Dr. Henry Cloud Mar 15, 2021

Hi everyone, 
 
For the past several weeks, you’ve heard me talk about how excited I am about my upcoming webinar on How to Get a Date Worth Keeping, and if you’ve read the book, you’ll absolutely love the live online event!
 
This is for you if … 
 
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Keep Your Dating Boundaries and Don't Settle Mar 13, 2021

"I don't know what to do with my boyfriend," Stephanie said. "We're having problems, but I love him a lot. He's just not into the spiritual life. He pushes me for sex, and my values are important to me, so we get into a fight over being physical. And it doesn't seem like I'm a high priority to...

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Don’t Put Up With Mind Games in Relationships Mar 12, 2021

There is truth to the idea that we appreciate things that don’t come too easily, but at the same time, things have to be achievable. Good restaurants generally require a reservation’ you just cannot walk in. Why? Because they don’t allow it? No, that’s not why. Rather,...

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Love at First Sight is a Myth Mar 11, 2021

Love at first sight is a myth. It should be called “brain damage” for two reasons. First, you have to have brain damage to have love at first sight, and second, if you do think what you’re feeling is love, it will bring much damage to your brain as you move further along in the...

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It's Not Your Job to Make Anyone Happy Mar 05, 2021

I was talking to a young man one day about his girlfriend. He was thinking about taking the next step in their relationship, and he had questions. Several times during the conversation, he said that something she did or something about the relationship did not “make him happy.” It was...

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You Cannot Make The Person You’re Dating Grow Up Mar 05, 2021

Kaitlyn was weary of Steven’s chronic lateness when they would try to get together. Because he owned his own business, he was often delayed. It seemed like such a little thing, but as time passed, Steven’s tardiness became a big problem. Kaitlyn would arrange her day to meet for...

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How Freedom and Responsibility Can Transform a Relationship Feb 20, 2021

Many of the struggles people experience in dating and marriage relationships are, at heart, caused by some problem in the areas of freedom and responsibility. By freedom, we mean your ability to make choices based on your values, rather than choosing out of fear or guilt. Free people make...

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Why You Should Change the Way You Think About Dating Feb 19, 2021

Mikkalah had wanted to be dating for a while, but it wasn't happening for her.  She was an intelligent, fun and interesting person, so there seemed no good reason for her lack of dates other than her strategy.  Her "traffic patterns," as I call them, never placed her in situations where...

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The Worst Relationship is the One You Can't Let Go of Feb 19, 2021

"So why don't you tell him that you want to break up with him?" I asked Monica about her boyfriend, Brian. "You keep telling me over and over about this issue that just doesn't go away."

"Because he has so many wonderful qualities," she said. "There are so many things I love about him."

"Like...

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Is Dating About Getting Married? Feb 19, 2021

In this clip from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Cloud talks to a caller about the pressure to date for the purpose of getting married.

It’s a perception that puts so much pressure on singles and can take the fun away from dating, so Dr. Cloud explains how to change your perception about dating so...

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