Healing from emotional wounds requires us to confront and honor our pain. Our minds and bodies are designed to process pain, but often, we learn to invalidate and suppress it. Ironically, our attempts to avoid pain can create even more suffering. In this blog post, we'll explore the importance of...

The most crucial factor determining your success and happiness in life is your relationships. The people you choose to invest in and who choose to invest in you have a significant impact on where you end up in every aspect of your life. Will you let life's current dictate who comes into your...

I believe that all of life comes from the spiritual life. The spiritual life is the real life. Everything we see comes from the unseen. It's sort of like when you see a really tall, impressive building. Where did it come from? It came from forces that you can't see. A little girl playing with...

Have you ever had someone try to convince you that what you know to be true is, in fact, not true? How far did they take it? What were they trying to accomplish? Were they trying to gain control over you? Were they trying to dictate what reality is, and what it should feel like, for you?

We've...

Anxiety can shut us down and make our lives smaller. It will limit our lives and limit our performance. I don't want a small life for you, so I want you to understand what is going on with your anxiety so that you can begin to work through it.

Some of the causes of anxiety are biological, and...

Preparing for a difficult conversation can be, in and of itself, a daunting and difficult task. You get overcome by a nervous feeling, a sense of dread about how it may go. You question whether you might not be better off continuing to put up with whatever the issue is. You worry about their...

I love when people are first beginning to learn how to set boundaries. There is a moment that they sometimes find discouraging, but which I know is the signal that they're doing a great job. That moment is when they come up to me and say, "Hey, you know what? I did all that stuff that you told me...

A key idea about forgiveness that too many people get wrong is this: forgiveness addresses the past. If the issue is ongoing, it's not the past. You forgive people for something that they did in the past, not for something that they are doing in the present.

Sometimes people ask us to forgive...

Let's start with some hopeful news. Depression is treatable. It is one of the areas of mental health about which we know the most, and have made the most progress in providing effective care. So, if you or someone you know is dealing with depression, you can feel reassured that real help is...

There is a problem that comes up when you need to say "no" to someone you care about, and it can come up on our side of the fence, or it can come up on their side. The problem occurs when people make an inflexible association between love and the word "yes."

People that do this wind up feeling...

Setting aside the possibility that you are in an unsafe situation, such as with a person who is abusive in some way, the only way that a person can control us is if we give them control over us. We don't always mean to, but usually, we hand that power over to someone else, and then they use it to...

The word transparency can mean a lot of things in a relationship, but we're going to talk about a specific distinction that is important when thinking about boundaries and transparency. That is: the difference between personal information and secrets.

There is a phrase I love that you tend to...