What is Your Anger Trying to Tell You? Feb 16, 2024

Anger is often misconstrued and misunderstood. It's not just an emotion; it's a crucial signal. Anger alerts us to the fact that something is wrong, just as a flashing red light on a car's dashboard signals a potential problem. But how do we interpret this signal correctly?

Anger arises when our...

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Boundaries with an Interrupting Spouse boundaries marriage relationships Feb 14, 2024

Boundaries are a crucial part of any healthy relationship, including marriage. They represent our "property lines," delineating where our responsibilities begin and end. In all relationships, whether with children, strangers, colleagues, or spouses, the principle remains consistent: we are in...

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Breaking Free: Recognizing and Overcoming Spiritual Abuse christianity church faith relational spiritual abuse Feb 12, 2024

In the journey of spiritual exploration and growth, the essence of our immaterial life—the spiritual—stands as the cornerstone of our very existence. It's a realm that transcends the physical, shaping our relationships, our values, and our very sense of self. Yet, within this sacred...

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How Abandonment Issues Play Out In Relationships abandonment attachment relationships trauma Feb 09, 2024

Abandonment in early childhood can have profound effects on adult relationships, particularly in terms of attachment and trust. When parents or primary caregivers are inconsistent in their presence and support, it creates a deep-seated insecurity in children, which often manifests later in life....

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Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity cheating infidelity marriage relationships trust Feb 07, 2024

Trust is a multifaceted concept, essential in all relationships, particularly in the context of infidelity. Understanding the anatomy of trust is crucial in the journey of rebuilding it. Trust isn't a monolithic entity; it's more like a mosaic, composed of various elements that, when combined,...

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Living With a Narcissist gaslighting narcissism relationships Feb 05, 2024

Navigating through life with a partner who displays narcissistic tendencies can be a challenging and often isolating journey. The journey often begins with a sense of being elevated by the partner, only to later feel muted and unheard, as if their voice has been lost. This trajectory isn't...

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Without Listening There is No Connection Oct 27, 2023

Listening is so important. When someone doesn't listen, you don't feel like you're even there, or at least you don't feel like you're in the relationship. Without listening, there is no connection. And that's what's so important because everything thrives on being understood.

When we feel...

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Overcoming Shame is a Process Oct 25, 2023

Shame. It's something we all experience, yet it often makes us feel like something is uniquely wrong with us. I want to provide hope for you that there is a path to freedom from shame.

Shame originates from disconnection and broken relationships. We were designed for unconditional love and...

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What happens when we have bonding and connection issues? Oct 23, 2023

Bonding, connecting, and attaching with others is foundational for every human being. In our early months and years, we form attachments through being cared for and loved. This lays the groundwork for our ability to grow physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

When babies and young children...

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What Does Mentally Healthy Faith Look Like? Aug 04, 2023

In a world filled with distorted religion and dysfunctional church experiences, what should true, mentally healthy Christian faith really look like? This is an important question to ask ourselves.

A mentally healthy faith stems from a connection to God that provides attachment, meaning, and...

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Resetting Boundaries in Relationships Aug 02, 2023

Do you need a reset on boundaries with loved ones? It’s common for boundary issues to creep into even close relationships over time, even when you may have initially set some boundaries, as those boundaries may have eroded over time. Resetting boundaries requires courage and care, but it...

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Using Pain as a Wake-Up Call for Better Boundaries Jul 31, 2023

 

Is your lack of boundaries causing you pain? Unaddressed pain can be a wake-up call, motivating you to set firmer boundaries. Here are some ways to use pain to establish the boundaries you need.

How to Spot Painful Boundary Issues

Physical and emotional symptoms like chronic exhaustion,...

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