How to Recognize the Signs of Gaslighting Oct 17, 2022

Do you ever feel like someone is causing you to lose your grip on reality? If so, you may be a victim of gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which the abuser tries to make the victim question their own version of events, memory, or perception. This can make the victim...

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Learn to Ask for Help Oct 14, 2022

God places a high premium on the value of asking directly for help. Forms of the word ask appear almost 800 times in the Bible, many of them an invitation from God for us to ask for things: 

“If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” (Matt. 21:22)

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Do You Have Enough Safe People in Your Life? Oct 10, 2022

Many of us live our entire lives surrounded by barbed wire without any trees to break our fall. We try to pick safe, loving, faithful friends and spouses. And over and over again, we become disappointed and discouraged.

God created us to hunger and thirst for love, because love is our fuel. And...

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Do This: You and I Versus The Problem Oct 07, 2022

One of the most important aspects of your character in life, without question, is one’s ability to confront. It is true that you get what you tolerate. If the nature of reality is that there are always problems, if you do not confront them and instead tolerate them, then problems are what...

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Cut Your Losses and Move On Oct 05, 2022

I was speaking to parents one time about raising kids with successful character. In the Q and A a woman raised her hand and asked, “If you could tell parents what the one thing is that is most important to teach their kids about success, what would it be?”

“I would teach them...

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4 Character Issues That Hold You (and Your Relationships) Back Oct 03, 2022

If we are afraid of the truth about ourselves and have a character “stance” to hide, then we are headed in the wrong direction, away from reality. Think of the character issues that get in the way and create this kind of fear:

  • Fear of seeing that I am wrong or have faults that are...
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Invalidation is a Trust Killer Sep 30, 2022

Connection and trust happen when one heart meets another. Invalidation wipes out the other heart and closes it off. Think of the contexts of life that change when a person has the ability to connect with someone else. In business, deals are won and sales are made. In personal relationships,...

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5 Ways to Follow Your Calling Sep 28, 2022

Researchers write that, when it comes to how people look at their work, there are three kinds of people:

  1. Those who see their work as a “job,” with its main purpose being to provide a living
  2. Those who see their work as a “career,” with the main purpose of advancement...
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6 Ways to Improve Your Thinking Sep 26, 2022

Every single day, happy people are thinking thoughts that help them to be happy, and unhappy people do the opposite. I’ll add a disclaimer here that I am, once again, not speaking about people with clinical reasons for their depression. I am speaking to people whose unhappiness is caused by...

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Don’t Be Lazy About Your Happiness Sep 23, 2022

It probably sounds pretty obvious to say it, but many unhappy people desire to be happy. They want it, but they don’t always do the things that will make it happen.The potential for happiness walks by each and every day, and they don’t notice it, or they don’t take the steps to...

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Discover Your Desires And Bring Them to Life Sep 21, 2022

Your heart is an organ designed to have life flowing through it. Your mind is like that as well, as is your soul. They are not meant to be stagnant, with things buried in them, stuck there and not moving into the light of the outside world.

But to get to the outside visible world, those desires...

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How to Destroy All of Your Relationships Sep 19, 2022

I have a question for you. In your opinion, what is the formula for destroying relationships?
If you are like most people, you can probably think of a few ways to make them worse:
Lie
Cheat
Don’t pay attention
Criticize
Those are all good suggestions, and they would probably be pretty effective,...

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