Your People Picker Can Be Your Secret Weapon or Your Greatest Weakness Nov 11, 2022

What is the number one most important factor that determines how well you do in life?

Your relationships. Who you choose to be invested in, and who will invest in you. That does more to determine where you end up in every area of life than any other factor.

There is a construct that I like to use...

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How to Deal with Entitled People Nov 09, 2022

What does entitlement mean? The word literally means that someone has the right to something. However, entitled people believe that they automatically have the right to something.

When you go to the store and pick out some groceries, you hand over some money and then you are entitled to those...

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5 Steps Toward Developing a Growth Mindset Nov 07, 2022

How do we get past the gap from here to there? How do you reach your goals? How do you even set the right goals? A lot of this comes down to how we think and look at thinks.

Perhaps you’ve heard the expression, ‘The man who thinks he can, and the man who thinks he can’t are both...

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What is Spiritual Abuse? Nov 04, 2022

The spiritual life is the real life. Everything we see comes from the unseen.

When we see a big skyscraper, it could have started with a little girl who used to like playing with blocks. As she grew up, she developed her interest in design and building. She went to school to study how buildings...

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How to Get Over Rejection Nov 02, 2022

The dangerous part of rejection is how it is internalized by our brain, heart, and soul. Rejection can often affect the way you view yourself. It is important to examine how the rejection is changing or shaping that view. Depending on the level of rejection, it could include feelings of sadness,...

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Healing Bonding and Attachment Issues Oct 31, 2022

The process of bonding and attachment is the emotional and spiritual adhering of ourselves to another person. It is a foundational aspect of development. It is where we download and internalize the love that will empower us to grow in the future.

Bonding, connection, and attachment are important...

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Unsafe People, Consequences, and Boundaries Oct 28, 2022

When we feel powerless, we may believe that we have no control over our lives and that we are powerless to change our circumstances. This can lead to learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is a psychological condition in which a person believes that they are unable to control the events in...

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How to Deal with Narcissists in Your Relationships Oct 26, 2022

What do you do when you’re on the other end of a relationship with a narcissist?

It’s good to know what you’re dealing with.

The first thing that you need to do is to normalize your feelings. You can’t get strategic with your emotions until you label them appropriately....

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Are You in a Controlling Relationship? Oct 24, 2022

Healthy relationships require freedom. Boundaries are set in order to protect the individual thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of each person, so that they can bring their whole selves to the relationship. Boundary-less relationships can experience many types of dysfunction, but one way that a...

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How to Get More Comfortable with Saying No Oct 21, 2022

It is important to be able to say the word no to people in your life, in your relationships, your work, and other areas of life. The ability to say no is a sign of strength and self-respect. It shows that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you are not a doormat.

If you have a hard...

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Why Rejection Hurts So Much (and what to do with those feelings) Oct 19, 2022

Rejection hurts, and sometimes it really, really hurts? Why is that. Well, for starters, there is a biological and neurochemical reason that the pain of rejection hurts so much. You’re not overreacting. Your brain is working overtime processing these feelings.

If you’ve recently...

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Who Do You Want to Help? Oct 18, 2022

This month marks 5 years since we started Boundaries.Me. We are so grateful for the opportunity that we have had to be of service to our community. We created Boundaries.Me to be instructive, useful, and informative; to add structure, and to help you find healing and avoid unnecessary pain.

We...

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