Learning to Use Natural Consequences Mar 13, 2023

Natural consequences are an essential aspect of the human experience, and a key part of healthy boundaries. They refer to the outcomes that naturally occur as a result of our actions or decisions. For example, if we decide to skip a meal, the natural consequence may be feeling hungry later on.

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What Makes Someone an Unsafe Person? Mar 10, 2023

Unsafe people cover a wide range of possible behaviors and relationships. On the one end there are those individuals who, whether intentionally or not, have a tendency to thwart our efforts to become the best version of ourselves that we can possibly be. They get us off track by distracting us,...

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The Building Blocks of Trust Mar 08, 2023

Consider this: you find yourself at odds with someone from work, but you can’t quite put your finger on the reason why. Or perhaps you’re struggling with a family dynamic. You love these people and want the best for them, but the trust just isn’t there. 

Trust goes far...

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What is a Narcissist? Mar 06, 2023

Narcissism is a term that is often overused and misunderstood, mostly because determining whether someone is a true narcissism requires a diagnosis by a professional. In the absence of a formal diagnosis, we can certainly say that many individuals exhibit narcissistic tendencies.

When someone...

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The Law of Sowing and Reaping Mar 03, 2023

The Law of Sowing and Reaping is one of the fundamental laws of boundaries. It states that there are consequences, both good and bad, for our actions. It is how we learn and grow. When we hold our breath, for example, our body begins to lose oxygen and we begin reaping what we have sown. This law...

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Trust: The Fuel for Life Mar 01, 2023

We have been created and designed biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically to trust. When trust is high, it gets all the juices flowing and everything runs well. When trust is low—well, you know what that’s like. When trust is broken, things are even...

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Love Doesn’t Mean You Always Have to Say Yes Feb 27, 2023

Some people think love means never being allowed to say no. For example, having to choose between where to spend Christmas with the in-laws, unless you already agree: one of you will have to hear No. But that does not equate with a lack of love or care. We want to give love, but not give in...

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Trust vs Control Feb 24, 2023

Trust is fuel for connection. When trust is present, a relationship becomes a safe space where each person can invest their time, energy, and other resources and feel safe that it is a sound investment. One of the worst things for trust is to try to enforce control over another person....

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Misplaced Feelings of Care Feb 24, 2023

Codependency is a pattern of unhealthy and potentially dangerous relationship behaviors that can turn your life upside down. Typically, one person is the dependent, and the other is the enabler. The enabler may often find themselves engaging in behaviors such as people pleasing, or find...

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How to Remove Unsafe People From Your Life Feb 20, 2023

It will happen to nearly everyone at some point. You find yourself stuck in a relationship, maybe a romantic relationship, or a friendship, or a family relationship, with someone who continually makes you feel on guard, under threat, scrutinized, criticized, and sometimes even may put you in...

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How to Withstand Setbacks Feb 17, 2023

At the simplest level, resilience means you can withstand things. You can bounce back.

You can’t always control things. This world we live in has got a whole lot of stuff going on, and you’re not always going to be able to control what’s going to happen. The stock market will go...

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Defining Fear Feb 15, 2023

Fear helps us to define our boundaries. We have to use this fear, rather than allow ourselves to be overcome by the fear. In order to do that, we need to understand the nature of our fears, and what they are indicating. Boundaries define what is our property to own, and what is not our property...

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